Review: Tantus Sport

Tantus Sport dildo (teal) pictured on pink/white striped backgroundIn the past I haven’t been one to shy away from dildos with lots of girth and/or texture, but now my current health issues often make attempting to use such toys a painful endeavor. I still crave penetration despite this so anything that allows me to experience it with minimal discomfort is very much appreciated.

With a diameter of 1.25″/3.2cm and a length of 5.5″/14cm, the Tantus Sport isn’t too intimidating. It isn’t difficult to insert and works well as a warm up to bigger sizes. It is also available in a longer version (7.5″/19cm length).

I was pleased with the sensation that the bulbed head provided. While firm materials (glass, steel etc.) tend to give me the best G-spot stimulation, I am often too scared to use them now because of how often penetration is painful for me. Fear causes me to tense up and therefore just makes things worse, so I’ve never been so grateful for the existence of silicone dildos! The stimulation I get from the Sport isn’t as intense as it is with larger toys (like my beloved Anaconda) or those with firmer heads but I never feel bored while using it and perhaps more importantly, I can actually use it.

The Sport is unique in that its base has a teardrop shape rather than the typical circular Tantus base. I like this because I tend to suck at keeping toys upright during use. The pointed tip lets me know what angle I have the toy at. I also like having a bit more to grasp onto and I imagine it might work better in a harness than the old circular shape.

If you like your dildos to come in unusual colours, the Sport is one of the few to be available in teal and lime (if you’re a fan of these colours, get one from the closeout section before they sell out). The metallic silver version also looks quite stunning.

If you are accustomed to larger toys and don’t find penetration difficult you’ll probably prefer one of the bigger Tantus dildos, but otherwise the Sport is a good choice. It’s the perfect size for my current circumstances and feels good without being too uncomfortable. I prefer plugs over dildos anally, but the size and base make it a good choice for that too.

Thanks to Tantus for sending me the Sport to review!

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Review: The Ultimate Guide to Kink

The Ultimate Guide to Kink front cover The Ultimate Guide to Kink is edited by Tristan Taormino, a well-known author, sex educator and director of pornographic films. Essays by several other sex educators are included on a number of aspects of kink.

If you skipped over the contents page and just read the introduction and first couple of chapters, you might get the impression that this is a book for beginners. Meanings of the various roles and acronyms are explored, as are the basics of things like consent, safety and impact play, all which experienced kinksters are likely to be well aware of. The further you get into the book, the more you wonder who the intended audience is. There are many types of play featured that require quite a lot of care and experience to do safely and/or are likely to “squick” newbies and the less open-minded. I’m talking about things like fisting (vaginal and anal), needle play and mind fucks and taboo forms of roleplay. I have no problem with these things and in fact rather like that they are included. It means that the book covers topics that many other kink books only mention briefly or shy away from altogether. The age play chapter was particularly of interest to me because it focused on sexual age play, something that I had difficulty finding information on elsewhere. I just have to hope that their inclusion in a book that beginners may well be likely pick up doesn’t put some people off kink entirely.

Each chapter is written by a different author, which certainly provides a range of perspectives and writing styles but the book is somewhat disjointed and repetitive as a result. The authors usually include safety information about the topic they’re writing about. Instead of focusing only on that topic, precautions that relate to a number of aspects of kink are often stated as well. Safety is of course important, but reading “oh and make sure to give the bottom a cuddle afterwards” over and over gets annoying. It does however mean that you can just read the chapters that interest you and not miss out on anything too important.

This book is likely of more limited use to those who practice D/s without S&M, but otherwise it is inclusive of most types of kinksters. Many chapters are useful to both tops and bottoms. Other chapters are specific to one type of role, but dominants, submissives, sadists and masochists are all represented in these.

This isn’t likely to be a book you’ll read from cover to cover. Many topics are included. Some will interest you, others won’t. It doesn’t cover everything (naturally), but it’s certainly nice to see the inclusion of types of play that don’t usually get much of a mention in kink books. I’m not sure I’d recommend it to beginners due to some of the more “extreme” types of play covered. It seems like Taormino’s other book, 50 Shades of Kink, might be a better option for those newer to kink but I can’t comment on it as I haven’t read it.

I try to read as much about kink as I can and still feel that The Ultimate Guide to Kink was able to provide me with a lot of interesting information.

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Deviant’s Favourite Sex Toys (2012-2014)

I’ve never done a post highlighting what I thought the best toys I reviewed in a given year were. Since I’m in my third year of reviewing, it seems difficult to start such a thing now when so many of my favourites wouldn’t get a mention as they were reviewed when my blog was only in it’s infancy. So, I give you my favourites across all the years I have reviewed (so far) with the aim of producing “Best of Year X” posts in the future!

It was rather difficult to narrow down some categories down to a one or two toys. Check my toy box for products with hearts next to them for a broader view of my favourites.
Tantus Anaconda Black Silicone Dildo

Best Dildo: Tantus Anaconda.

The ridged head, lack of flexibility, matte texture and large size can make this dildo feel brutal at times, but I’ll be damned if my vagina doesn’t feel amazing whenever I work up the courage to use it. The handled design is unique and good for thrusting/partner use (plus it allows you to spank people with it). Definitely my favourite.

Runner up: Jopen Key Comet Wand (not yet reviewed, but fantastic G-spot stimulation).

Fun Factory Big Boss BlackBest Internal Vibrator: Fun Factory Big Boss/Fun Factory Stronic Eins.Fun Factory Stronic Eins Purple

I told myself I’d only pick one toy per category (with the possibility of some runner ups), but I can’t choose between the Big Boss and the Stronic Eins. Arguably the Stronic Eins doesn’t belong in this category because it thrusts rather than vibrates, but where else would I put it?

The Big Boss is large, rumbly, strong deliciousness. I compare all other internal vibrators I try to the Big Boss now. Terrible…

The Stronic Eins is just freaking amazing. It’s the ultimate toy for lazy masturbators who love thrusting.

Jimmyjane Form 2 Navy/SlateBest Clitoral Vibrator: Jimmyjane Form 2.

A lot of people hate the Form 2, which is fair enough. It has a tendency to go haywire (see the review for the full details). But it also happens to be the shape I find most stimulating. The Form 2 is easily my most used vibrator.

Runners up: Vibratex Mystic Wand (great for broad stimulation, cheap yet strong), We-Vibe Salsa (compact and strong pinpoint stimulation) and the Wahl (it’s extremely cheap, crazy strong and makes me squirt).

Tantus Ryder Butt Plug BlackBest Anal Toy: Tantus Ryder.

The Tantus Ryder is cheap and a good intermediate size. There’s not much more to say. It’s simple and it works.

Runner up: Njoy Pure Plugs.

Best Lubricant: Sliquid.

No parabens or glycerin to worry about. I love their thicker formulas (Sassy, Organics Gel). I really don’t use much else.

Wartenberg Wheel PinwheelBest Sensation Play Toy: Wartenberg Pinwheel.

An essential sensation play toy. They’re usually pretty cheap too. They looks scary, but won’t draw blood unless you’re really rough with them.

Runners up: Violet wand and Japanese clover clamps (not reviewed as these are produced by a variety of manufacturers).


Other categories:

I haven’t tried enough of each of the categories below to call any of them “the best”, but I will tell you my favourites based on what I’ve tried so far.

Impact toys – I like material variety too much to be able to pick.

Cock rings – good experiences with Cock-a-hoops (not reviewed) and Spartacus Crave.

Masturbation sleeves – Bride likes the GTC Spider and doesn’t see the need for an additional masturbator.

Vaginal/kegel balls – I’ve only tried Luna Beads but they’re great.

Positioning – I’ve only tried the Wedge and don’t see the need for much else.

Gags – Nothing stands out to me (I like variety).

Books – Nothing stands out to me, too many different genres within the broad “sex” category to pick just one or two.

Lingerie – Nothing stands out to me, too subjective based on body type.

Massage – Meh, depends whether you prefer an oil, candle or solid bar.

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My Doctor

Based (very closely) on a scene I did with Bride recently. It seems I have discovered a liking for age play. Enjoy!

Cute pink, t-bar shoes and white frilly socks for age play

I am but a child
With frills on my socks
Rainbows and unicorns on my shirt
And you are my doctor

So concerned you are
About my teeth and heartbeat
Patient and kind
Until I’m the least bit unwilling

The rope against my skin
Your hand against my thigh
A case full of tools
Your pristine coat

A needle for the pain
A scalpel for your research
Sealed up so crudely
You say it must be done

You pull down what once covered me
Take what once soothed me
Remove my last freedoms
And steal my innocence

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Review: SM 101

Front cover of SM 101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay WisemanUnlike books that document the experiences of BDSM practitioners, SM 101: A Realistic Introduction provides practical advice for getting started in doing BDSM yourself. From it’s title, you might think that this book only covers sadomasochism but in actuality bondage and D/s also feature prominently. It seems that SM, S/M or S&M, while mostly used to refer to sadomasochism specifically today, previously incorporated acts which we would now include as part of the BDSM acronym instead.

The author, Jay Wiseman, is a former Emergency Medical Technician and this is rather apparent in his writing. Safety is emphasized very strongly, to the point that it becomes a little tedious and over the top. A lot of it is solid advice though and I personally could have benefited from following some of the suggestions for playing with new people.

The majority of the book is instruction on how to top or dominate someone. It includes topics such as bondage, impact play and other methods of inflicting pain and how to train someone to be your submissive. There is enough information on rope bondage to get you started with tying someone up but beware if you’re a visual learner. Most of it is written description. The amazon product page for the book has the “look inside” feature, so you can see the contents (and therefore the other topics in the book) as well as the first few pages there.

Some of Wiseman’s safety views are controversial, particularly his opinion that there is no safe way to do breath play. You can read the essay that was included in the book on the subject here. If it’s something you’re interested in, I encourage you to do your own research. To his credit, the author does state that opinions about the safety of BDSM activities vary widely and strongly encourages the reader to not rely on the book as their sole source of information.

There are aspects of the book that could put certain people off. If you don’t view your interest in BDSM as a “lifestyle”, care little for formal or typical D/s protocols, and/or have no interest in attending BDSM events, parts of this book may very well annoy you. For example, the author does have rather strong opinions on things such as the meaning of collars and believes that anyone with a strong interest in BDSM should be involved in their local scene. He is ranty about feminism at times (though this mostly seems aimed at sex-negative and anti-kink feminists). While he does try to be inclusive of all genders and orientations, people of bisexual or pansexual orientation may feel unrepresented as he tends to write in heterosexual/homosexual terms.

As this book was published in 1998, it can be expected that some information is outdated. Wiseman recommends the use of lubricants containing nonoxynol-9 (a spermicide) and applying it directly to the genitals in the event of condom failure to help reduce the risk of STIs, but studies suggest it may actually increase the risk of transmission. He recommends BDSM news groups, periodicals and magazines as a means of getting in touch with one’s local community and similarly outdated methods for meeting partners. These days, most people are probably just going to point you to Fetlife. In the chapter on lubricants, there is no mention of silicone lube when it can now be found in most sex stores. Also, he spells dildos like “dildoes”. What’s up with that?

Overall, SM 101 is a decent introduction to BDSM. It would have been more useful for a top than it was for me (a bottom), but I did benefit from some of the safety information. For me personally, there was too much information on some topics (D/s interactions) and not enough on others (humiliation), but it’s impossible to please everyone. Most of the information included can be found online but a book on the subject can be useful in presenting you with information that you may not have otherwise thought to seek out yourself.

If you’re a novice top, dominant or switch who enjoys (or likes the idea of) inflicting physical pain and restraining a partner this book should be at least somewhat useful to you, but I agree with the author in that it shouldn’t be your only source of information.

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