I think I have a pretty good sex life. My boyfriend and I communicate fairly well, care about getting each other off and are both pretty open-minded.
There have been issues along the way that have affected the amount or quality of sex we have, just as I imagine there have been for most couples if they’ve been together long enough. Bouts of thrush, mood problems, knee surgery recovery, things like that. It doesn’t make for a very sexy post, but I think it’s important to remember that this shit happens sometimes.
The knee pain I experienced last year didn’t affect us too much, but I couldn’t be on my knees at all for some of the recovery period. I like rear entry sex a lot, but at the same time I don’t think there is anything wrong with missionary. I did start to long for a different position eventually, but we played up the “helpless, injured person who is being taken advantage of” angle which was fun.
Thrush treatment only lasts for about a week thankfully. Sometimes one of us just doesn’t feel like sex, but luckily this has never been a long term thing.
So yes, all was pretty well until I started developing ovarian cysts. It was back in May when I first made a post about how they were affecting me. I practically stopped using dildos altogether but still had sex because I would have gone nuts otherwise (I didn’t know I’d still be dealing with it 5 months later either).
At first the pain could be mostly avoided if Bride attempted to thrust into the left side of my vagina. I managed to orgasm some of the time, but sex became a source of anxiety to me. Even when my expectations of how much it would hurt didn’t match reality, it was difficult for me to relax and enjoy what was happening. I made much less noise than I did before. I couldn’t let go, I had to concentrate on the pleasure to try and ignore the pain. It was dismaying that no matter how aroused I was, it usually still hurt. I wasn’t spared outside of sex either. There was and still is abdominal pain that comes and goes throughout the day.
Bride has been away for three weeks. We usually have pretty awesome sex when he gets back. I’m not sure when it will be, I just hope that I can get this issue sorted before then. I’ve gone off the birth control that was supposedly causing them and I’m having yet another ultrasound today, so I can only hope. I’ve accumulated a number of implements while he has been gone so I at least have something to look forward to if/when I get better.